I agree that you have to be the one to decide if it is a deal breaker for you or not. I know what the answer for me would be in a flash.....but you are not me. So, do what is right for you. But, one more thing I want you to consider......that beautiful daugther of yours. What will it be teaching her if you allow him to return and you keep taking more and more of this crap that he pours on you? Will she think that since all guys "do that" that all women are suppose to take whatever they dish out? She needs a good role model set for her and her father certainly is not thinking about being a good one for his children at the moment. Wonder how this will make his son think that a wife should be treated and will the son treat his wife with the same disrespect some day? Well, it's a lot to think about for you. I know Christmas are big family days and mothers want everything to be "just right" for the kids. I just hope you don't pay too big of a price in trying to achieve that.
I think I made a reference back about the flirting and spunkiness, etc. I hope you realize that I meant for you to stay balanced and use good common sense with all of that. IMHO, the man has abused anything good you might have given him, but it is still up to you as to how you plan to handle this. Just remember those kids. It sounds like you have a very level headed young lady for a daughter and she probably intimidates the boys a little b/c she when she got looks and brains...WOW...they can't handle that...lol. You just wait, as long as she has a smart mom by her side, she will end up marrying well.
Love and best wishes, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
