Nope it never came up in counseling and neither did the fact that when he moved out of our house in June he didn't rent a home he had been spending more than 3 months buying a home. YES BUYING A HOME behind my back. You see...although I had deeded him on to the house we bought together his credit wasn't good at the time we got the home loan so only my name is listed as "RESPONSIBLE". As a result he had great debt to income ratio on paper so he could buy his own house. Isn't that sweet? We had a $440K first mortgage and a $100K second mortgage and he walked out without even asking me how I was going to pay for it. I have been doing it on my own ever since. To add insult to injury during the time he was working on his home loan both my brother and father were hospitalized and I was completely consumed by taking care of that...my brother nearly died and was in ICU for more than a month and then a rehab facility for 2 months. It certainly made it easy for H to take care of his "business" without me knowing anything was going on.
I found out about his ugly whore last week when after speaking to him on the phone and having him tell me he was at his friends house helping him move....I caught him coming out of his house with her. Mind you...I had strong suspicions before that as I had found a reservation for a hotel in bodega bay in his email. That is also how I found out about the house and then went on to public records and found out that he owned the house. The disgusting part of all of this is that he continued to lie even after I showed him proof. He continued to lie until I saw them together. WTF kind of person does that? Seriously...why would someone lie about that kind of crap? I BEGGED him to tell me if he was seeing someone and told him that it would make it so much easier for me to let go for good if I knew he had moved on. All he would say and I quote was "I don't need anyone...I'm just trying to find myself and figure out what makes me happy....I am not seeing anyone and I won't be for a very long time".
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I am so angry, hurt ...I feel stupid..
