I do recall that, but each is always slightly unique. From what I recall, CG34 was and as you say still is, living we BF. MOT35 is no longer living with her ex, they are seperated. I do not see it that with her I would be OM as she is done. I will not persue it as such but stay friends and when we meet up (when out, not arranged) speak to her a bit more about it and say exactly that. I do not want me clouding her judgement on her ex and that I will not start 'seeing' her until she has told him that it's over and time to move on to start seeing other people or something. I might meet someone else before then, who knows. Seem to meet so many different ladies when out it's unreal.
splittin hairs brother..6 of one half a dozen of another..it's all the same.. LOL
yeah, a little I guess. I'm not chasing her at all. I'm not chasing any of them at all, they seem to be chasing me and I'm just being nice. I can't do nasty, it's just not me.
Just had Text from MOT35 from her hols again, just reporting in. I never ever text first. It's so tough, she is a nice girl and I would rather that as they have kids, her and her ex sort it. I've said as much, but she says it's done. What can I do ?
For all you know Mike, CG34 could still be living with BF as it's the easiest solution rather than what she really wants. A lot of people do that rather than try and sort out the issues bothering them, or moving on. It's where the WAS mindset begins no ?
I'm not chasing her at all. I'm not chasing any of them at all, they seem to be chasing me and I'm just being nice. I can't do nasty, it's just not me.
not judging or anything bro..jus sayin'
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I never ever text first. It's so tough, she is a nice girl and I would rather that as they have kids, her and her ex sort it. I've said as much, but she says it's done. What can I do ?
keep it friendly.
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For all you know Mike, CG34 could still be living with BF as it's the easiest solution rather than what she really wants. A lot of people do that rather than try and sort out the issues bothering them, or moving on. It's where the WAS mindset begins no ?
correct..and I could go right in and shake things up, cause all kinds of drama..and have her..I'm confident of that...I choose not to. I would not want some hard D**K coming in if I was in that sitch..As a matter of fact i broke off all contact with her..except for a casual exchange when I go to lunch..
I'm not chasing her at all. I'm not chasing any of them at all, they seem to be chasing me and I'm just being nice. I can't do nasty, it's just not me.
not judging or anything bro..jus sayin'
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I never ever text first. It's so tough, she is a nice girl and I would rather that as they have kids, her and her ex sort it. I've said as much, but she says it's done. What can I do ?
keep it friendly.
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For all you know Mike, CG34 could still be living with BF as it's the easiest solution rather than what she really wants. A lot of people do that rather than try and sort out the issues bothering them, or moving on. It's where the WAS mindset begins no ?
correct..and I could go right in and shake things up, cause all kinds of drama..and have her..I'm confident of that...I choose not to. I would not want some hard D**K coming in if I was in that sitch..As a matter of fact i broke off all contact with her..except for a casual exchange when I go to lunch..
well. I'm wondering if I should really be here anymore. I used DB to get me to a good place but I'm going OTT on the GALing front and I'm sort of becoming those people we hate. That OP that messes the mind of a WAS to actually walk away and quit. It's not deliberate, these girls are coming to me as they are unhappy and I do give them the try and work itout speech, but I think that makes you more attractive.
I will continue to journal for a bit and think about it, but I feel a bit hypercritical in giving out advise to others when I'm being like I am.
I'm even getting called a player by people now and it's not really me, I'm just having a good time and it's happening. Yes, I know I have control, but the silly thing is, I don't actually feel bad about anything I have done. Is that wrong ?
FWIW, I have not slept with anybody, I'm really happy right now and enjoying life, still giving my boys a great time, I'm just not really abiding by DB.
Arthur, FWIW I see the same thing happening to a friend of mine who I go out with occasionally. It's a vibe your giving off,you probably don't even recognise you are doing it. Yes your having fun but are you sure it's good for you. Do you think maybe it is a form of self medicating-dull the pain and yes I know you are so over your wife. You are still a dad, I forget their ages but do you want them to accidently hear that Dad's a player or worse. Maybe you need some time as a single and no that doesn't mean staying in and playing solitaire but perhaps a different form of Gal other than pubs and clubs-notorious meat markets. You got any hobbies,other than raising your elbow? lol I am not judging by any means but I think it does bother you somewhat and I do think you need longer to heal. I see you trying to justify your actions,maybe I read it wrong. Just take care thats all.
Naej - Thanks for post and the line re any other hobbies than raising my elbow, cracked me up !!!
I'm an open and honest person and yeah, your not totally wrong. Thing is, it's like I've been in a time machine and gone back 15 years to being aingle and living at home. What else do you do on a Saturday night ?
The boys are 2 and 6 and they won't hear that dads a player as I'm not really. I just so happen to have been getting a fair bit of attention of late and a couple that seem real interested. And your right, and Mike has said it to, us DB'd men (and probably the girls too), are giving of something to attract others as I've generally not really put in any effort. Certainly no made first moves.
Jan 09 is slow down time, got a busy last couple of weeks planned now. I do see it that I am only doing what other single people are and nothing wrong.
it's how you use that powerand knowledge..that will determine whether you are a "playa" or not...
all the attention making you a "playa"???
and define playa...you definaition might be different than mine..you don't seem to be sleeping with all of these women..to me a playa would be bedding them as fast as he could....
it's how you use that powerand knowledge..that will determine whether you are a "playa" or not...
all the attention making you a "playa"???
and define playa...you definaition might be different than mine..you don't seem to be sleeping with all of these women..to me a playa would be bedding them as fast as he could....
Then I am not a playa mike (and I love the spelling). I just seem to be chatting to a lot and getting a lot of attention which I obviously enjoy. Never more than snogging for me and I have more respect for women that don't put out on a first meeting anyway. 2nd though and if we don't i might get the hump...lol (seriously joking there)
Well FWIW and IMO..if you're not bedding them one after another then you're not a "playa"..
if talking to women and engaging them is being a "playa" then I may just get 2x4'd really bad..also since the women are engaging you instead of vice versa then I don't see how you can even think you might be a playa..
