YR:

I read that your H lived with OW for 2 yrs. Was he mostly dark during that time? Did our H's OW have kids? My H acts like the wonderful step dad and H only communicates with me about S's and our house.

Also, our D will be final in April. Not sure how to get through to him in 4 months time. I haven't been able to do it in 1 yr. I'm afraid it's done for.