The L I talked to said even though H moved out on 10/1, he is NOT seperated. We are living apart but M. This is what these Hs do not get. If I get pictures through PI it is admissable in court since there is no formal agreement, especially since I have phone records from this summer showing he was already in A and credit card bills taking her out. H left a paper trail.
Silver Fox good to hear from you. How is the D going? How long does it take where you live? Are you trying to delay it? I anticipate that H is going to ask me for a D after the holidays because in his mind it makes him a good guy. I dread it. I know we like to take the high road but I definitely would have exposed H, because now it probably is too late. So they can portray their A as a romance instead of what it is -- sleazy A. You can send a Christmas card to their house and sign it "your wife", Put a wrinkle in their holiday.
My H is spending Christmas/New Year with OW. How do they introduce him? Boyfriend? He is first her boss (big no-no) and he is a married man. Does her family even care? pretty sad. I can only hope it is true what others have said on this board that the holidays will be bad for WAS also.
Mof3, in their fogged up world, of course it is acceptable to date. No consequences and what they think they deserve to be happy.
We have to stay on top of our own game and try to keep our confidence up. I know when I do that -- my H notices.
take care.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
