Ok you guys are to slow answering and you have been up hours before me Ha Ha.
Well after reading the next chapter in Db i decided that everyones Db is different. All trying different things so it might be hard to advise. But with journalling you may be able to give me a heads up on baby steps or positives I am missing !!!!!!
Sooooo i rang H, as I would of done I think in 10 years time if he was on his own. I offered him the spare room post operation. He did not reject immediatly as I might of expected and said he would see how he felt tomorrow. His tone was down, not jolly but before he got to the phone he sounded jolly in the back ground .
I then said " Would you prefer it if I did not visit tonight in hospital " He said " Oh doesn't matter because I have to get used to it " i said Ok up to you and good luck and bye.
6 weeks ago he said he did not want me either at a family wedding ( which I did not go to ) or at the hospital when he was having his op . So this was a change from past 6 weeks.
Anyways after thinking about his comment, i rang him back to say: " I visit anyone in hospital , your mother and your brother and your father , just thus year. I have a vested interest in you as my kids father and hell I have been around you 30 years "
He said
" Oh I dont mind if you visit - up to you . I just dont care if you dont "
