I wanted to start a new thread since my old one may lock soon and I hope to receive a good amount of feeback/opinions on the latest happenings.....Warning, long post!.....
Yesterday D and I were running errands and going to Holiday in the Park in our town. There she was able to see Santa, make crafts, decorate a cookie, magic shows, story time, etc etc. I ended up tm H asking if he'd like to meet us there or if that's not his cup of tea. (I did this because I saw his car in front of IL's on the way to the store). Here's the tm for hte next few hours: H: No, but I want my time with D! I hate this couple of hours sh*t and it's only fair I get my time with her too! Me: what's wrong? This has been the arrangement since u moved out. H: I'll be over in a bit "I want D this weekend. I deserve to spend time with her it's only fair!" me: She doesn't want to spend the night and knows it's not good that daddy lives with another girl when he's married. (This is honestly what D said when I asked her if she wanted to see H instead of going to the holiday thing.) H: "I want to see D! I need to see D! Its only about me and her and nobody else and it's only fair!!! I have lost all hope and just need to spend time with her. PLEASE!!! I just want to be with her! PLEASE!!" H: Damit! All I wanted was to spend time with D so I could be motivated again. I feel like [censored], PLEASE!!!! Me: She asked if you can see her today and come back again tomorrow. She doesn't want to go to your house. If you want to get motivated, why don't you start coming over and/or calling more? H: When are you going to be home so I can come over to get her? H: PLEASE, I'll be off all week to talk about things. I just want to be with D this weekend! PLEASE!! Me: I've heard we'll talk for about a year now. Maybe it's time you wallow in sadness like you've left me to do (wrong, I know. He was ticking me off though) H: It's not Bullsh*t! I'll be off all next week, we can talk about whatever you want and all the things I've been wanting to talk about. Just give me the weekend to be with D. PLEASE!!!!!!!! Me: You have promised talking for a year now, promised to write me a letter a min of the past 2 weeks and promised to have it in my mailbox today. Why should I now believe it will actually happen? H: I swear! All I'm asking for is the weekend with D. Me: She doesn't want to go to your place. She wants to you come over and do things today and tomorrow. Or you can even sleep here and I'll leave. H: Now I see how much you hate me, all I'm asking for is the weekend with D and I would be around all week to talk. THANKS!!! Me: Whatever, play your games with someone else. She doesn't want to spend the night! Me: I wanted to kill myself last week and you didn't care. Remember that? (only a couple people know this, now you all know) H: It's not a game, I SWEAR! Where are you, I'll meet you? Me: You're wasting my time, emotions and allowed text. Bye. H: THanks a f'ing lot!Thanks for letting me have time with her! That's all I was asking for and I would be around all f'ing week to talk to you. F it, right!!!! Me: Lose your attitude with me, I don't deserve this. You're angry because you don't get your way? We said you can see her today and tomorrow and/or spend the night at my place while I leave. Why isn't that good enough? H: All I wanted was to spend time with her. F it, it don't matter obviously! Me: I gave you options since she doesn't want to spend the night. Don't tell me I didn't.
Then he started calling, talked to D and convinced her to go to his place since they'll have tons of fun, make popcorn and watch movies. Tell mommy you don't want to go to that holiday thing (when we were already there). So she was on my case to go, made a few crafts and we left.
I text asking when he'll be picking her up then.
H: I'll make it easier on both of us and just come over tomorrow around lunch time. Thanks alot! Me: She's waiting now after you talked to her. This is what you wanted, right? H: Yea, I wanted to be with her, not having you pissed, I'll be over tomorrow. THanks alot! Me: I'm not pissed but she will be if you blow her off now. How much have you drank today? (I asked this because he was at his dad's all day, his dad's an alcoholic and his tm's were all messed up in spelling.) H: I'll be over in a few, only had a couple to drink but thanks! Me: I'm only asking for the safety of D while she's in the car with you. I'm a mom, that's what I do.
Then he came over to get her. This was around 5:30.
