I haven't posted much lately but have been reading your new thread and trying to keep up.
Try some yoga classes or just get a DVD - do some easy stretching and deep breathing before going to bed and see if that helps.
Christmas will be tough but I do believe it will be tougher for the WAS whether they admit it to themselves or not.
A question about exposure - my sitch is complicated and I haven't explained all the details on my thread yet, but when my H decided that he was in love with someone else he moved out first before beginning the PA. He called this "separation". Even told me "I'm going to do it right" (!!) Anyway, to make a long story short - he helped the OW through surgery and had much contact with her parents. At one point I asked him if they knew he was married and he responded angrily "we're separated!"
So, maybe they know, maybe they don't. But I'm pretty sure he's planning on spending a 2nd Christmas with them - I think they believe he's such a great guy, helping their baby daughter recover and all.
I've taken the high road for so long - I know I should stay out of it (?) - let karma get him eventually - but damn! I'd love to tell them everything!!!
Oh, and how do I know where they live? They gave him a $50 check for his birthday last summer. We still have a joint account so I can see the check - their address and phone number right in my face.
Or maybe I could start sending the OW a text message everyday - Hello, it's Dec. 14, 2008 and your boyfriend of 20 months is STILL MARRIED.
Thanks for letting me vent! I'll stay in touch through the holidays.
Stay strong!
Last edited by Silver Fox; 12/14/0806:56 PM.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
