Detach>Worse>Weird>Better ???

[Sophie]

Thank you so much for the reminders, Snodderly...:)

Silver...you still haven't heard anything since your response??

I am more bothered by D paper, lawyers, the law...and the emotional hell it will bring on me. I am walking on egg shells becasue of that....I'm more concerned with what is happening in that arena, than with my H.

I am having a very hard time continuing my time around H if all the while he is planning his next attack!!!

I really don't want to talk to him at all if he is still working on this D. My L is wondering if it is on hold.

I responded on 11-26...and we have heard nothing, yet. I don't want to hear anything. How long does it take to write a settlement draft?

Most definately, H distracts himself with work...but, he must work overtime or do side jobs, just to meet his basic bills. I know he does not have a savings. I know how much $$ H makes, and how much extra he has the potential to make. H isn't squirrling away anything. (I am our tax preparer).

H has barely enough to keep paying what he has been paying...which made me curious where/who he was getting money for a L.

(H would squirrel away money if he could)

I was hoping, I guess, that the reality of what he did by filing, hit him when he read my response.

I honestly think he filed as an angry reaction...to get me to react. He has no idea all that he is going to have to destruct. I think his L is affiliated with a mutual friend and let H pay by the hour to get the papers filed. (H's L offers an hourly rate)

I had to retain my L.

And, I am NOT going to do the destruction for him. This is HIS decision, and he is going to be responsible for all of it.

H isn't going to get much out of this. He has been an absentee parent,husband, deserted us, etc, etc....had the A...and even if he get every other weekend...that won't hold up.

H has had a green light all this time to make plans/arrangements with the kids. He chooses not to. H isn't even showing any effort now to be with his kids.

Actually, what he heck did he file for anyway??? H doesn't have anyone else, isn't going to get any money, isn't going to get custody,...blah, blah, blah...

H actually has it pretty good just living a parallel life to me. A D will give him a lot less. At least that will be my approach and it will ALL be based on truth.

Sorry, I had to vent...I am truly more concerned with the developement of a D than what H is thinking, feeling etc, about anything else.

Oh....being nice to me to set me up for an attack...isn't going to work. Setting me up, leading me on...makes me even more determined and angry.