Trying flirting on for size!

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Thank you for the hugs Naej.

he isn't a nice young man at the moment

Understatement of the year I think! He expects me to apologise to him for taking his key away. Well I'm not going to. He pushed too far and too hard. He says he wants things to be better between us but actually said he isn't prepared to change the way he does things. So it would seem to me that he doesn't actually want a R with me at all. What is so annoying is that he is mirroring his dad' actions and reactions towards me. I didn't deserve them from H so I certainly don't from S16.

Was the call to replace the letter or had you sent it?

It was to replace it. I thought I might have more luck if I tried speaking to him. I should have known better. The sad thing is that due to my own turmoil growning up due to me not having that great a R with my mum (although it never got as bad as it is between me and S16) I think I have learnt to communicate through arguements. It cost me my M and now it is costing me my R with my S16 b/c he has inherited that way of communicating. I just want to break this vicious cycle but he isn't having any of it.

Is your d home from uni,or is she living with b/f?

No she isn't home yet. She doesn't finish uni until 19th and then her and her BF are going on a mini cruise to Amsterdam (his treat) and they will be home on 23rd.

What about the youngest how is she doing with it all,have they tried talking to their brother

D13 is suffering the same as me. She misses her brother but would never admit it. She is hurting seeing me so hurt and has been very offhand. She and D18 did try and talk to S16 when this all kicked off but nobody has seen him since so they haven't had the opportunity to do so again. D13 is very simplistic. She thinks that I just cut S16 out of my life completely. I've tried explaining to her that until she is a parent herself she will never understand how emotive this all is. This causes her to storm off and we go again.

This will be the 4th Christmas that has been ruined. I just want to hop on a plane and never come back.