Ali and Carlos, I'm glad I can provide something for you in your times of trouble. I do know that at first SirPrizeMe picked up my lifeline and kept me going. He took care of me and I'll never forget it.
There have been others too. Ali, you, Sunshine, Nut, Kerry, Phoenixdeux, and all the others have given me my kicks and 2X4s (as well as the hugs) throughout the past year I've been here on the boards. Now, I'm so blessed to have others coming by on a regular basis, like bizarre, to keep me grounded and help me to keep looking forward.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, you are welcome, but I'm really glad I can help out b/c I know what it is like to be so very alone.
Anyway, I was supposed to get up and do a TON of exercising today - had it all planned: spinning class at 8:30, abs class at 9:30, then cardio boot camp at noon. Well, last night I was at a surprise 65th birthday party for a co-worker and once the wine was uncorked, my inner alcoholic couldn't say no. Needless to say, I was finally in bed around 1 am, so my workouts were missed.
What did I do instead? Spent over six hours in my classroom grading papers, recording grades and digging up finals for the upcoming week. Was it good for my health or my body mass index? No, but I did need to do it.
I just rounded off my evening by taking myself out to the movies - I'm a lovely date, you know. I saw "Role Models" which is absolutely funny. If you like the crude humor (think Super Bad or Forgetting Sarah Marshall), then you've got to see it. It is very, very funny. Good, quick, gags and lines.
On the other front - the thundering pain in my arse one - I did send the following text to XW today: "I have no choice but to move forward w/the house. If you want to be included, you need to talk to me about it. I'll do the best I can for us in this market."
Much to my surprise, she actually did reply: "I am going to check on a few things regarding the house and the market. I will get back to you in a week or two."
Can you say controlling?
Anyway, I sent a few other texts (broke my conversations into smaller bites so I could save them on the computer - it won't save the big ones) and told her the following things: 1) two weeks is too long in this market. 2) informed her I've contacted the owners of the 2nd mortgage to talk about a settlement number that would allow us to not end up negative w/ a sale. 3) Told her I'm leaving the house soon whether there is a sale or not as I can't afford to stay any longer. 4) Reminded her I'm not the enemy and I have no control over the market or the economy. Also asked for her and I to be on the same team w/ the house. 5) I told her she could look to buy me out if she wanted control of the house. In this market, my buyout would only be in the $10-$15K range. Her parents might be able to scrape that up for her and then she can simply "have" the place.
Her reply - well, it's still pending, I guess. In any event, I will be submitting forms to the 2nd mortgage people to see if we can settle our 2nd for about $0.75/on the dollar. If they'll do that w/me, then I can sell the house easily in 30 days and walk out w/out having any joint debts w/ XW.
So, that's the latest from here. I'm not going to wait for her to do anything. Instead, I'll keep working w/ the realtor and the creditors and see what they will come up with. Then, I'll put it in front of XW and hope she doesn't screw us up even more by refusing to talk to me about things.
Her issue of control is so transparent. She's had every chance to take over the house, but has refused each time. It is easier to blame if you don't lift a finger, right?
