RTl, I just hope your XW does not cause you anymore financial damage by holding up the sale of the house. You would think since she has a stake in this she would be more proactive. If only you could hold on and she would give up her claim on it, you could keep it till things turn around. XW should try to preserve it for D so she has some stability in her life. XW just seems so incapable of putting her D first, which is kind of strange for a mother. Yes she should be happy, but most parents can only be happy if their kids are ok. The sale of the home will effect D, one would think that XW would do all she could to help out so that D still has that house, she seems to have no problem taking all from D. Xw sounds very selfish . It is strange, but my 3 D's are grown and gone but I still am trying to save my M . partly because i can't put them through having to see us apart. XW will ultimately be the loser because her D will see what she has done. My 3 D's are my best friends , and they know what their father has put me through ,and how awful he has been. But I know if I went with another man, they would freak. They want to believe that no matter what deep down, their parents love each other. Your XW has made a huge mistake by being with an OM in front of a five year old. Your D sounds very bright, and eventually she will not forgive XW for not loving her father, because she will know you wanted to put the family back together. I so hope you will find somebody and your D will get to see you happy in a stable R, which probably she will never see her mother in
