WOW! I am almost speechless! I just don't think I could have done it. I would be in handcuffs tonight and I ain't talking no sexual stuff either! That would have made me so mad that it would have been the deal breaker for me.....about the joint banking account (and that stupid lie he told you just insulted your smarts) but then to say he was taking OW on his trip but added all those "excuses" in with it......pleeeeeeease! I just wished you had waited to tell him face to face to catch his facial expression. I also wished you had had a tape recorder! All I can say is that you sure did better than I ever could have......just by not committing murder!! But, I did loooove it when you told him what he was losing in you. Now, that was a good job, sweetie! Just keep remembering that you are the one coming out the winner.
I did get a little confused......well, I just woke up from a nap and my brain is foggy (that is just as good of an excuse as he gives, isn't it?) Anyway, is he calling himself leaving for good? Or, does he think he is taking this OW with him on this trip with their joint bank account (and no telling what else is joint)and then think he is bringing his sorry a$$ back to his family here??? I mean, if Mack and Smack or Whack or whatever their names were don't break them up on that trip......what does a girl have to look forward to? Or was that after the trip? I'm so mixed up That is why my H is afraid to pull something like that is b/c I would kill him, plead insanity, and the Judge would know it was the truth!
So, how long is this trip going to be? Do you have a plan? Yuo can save it for tomorrow, don't have to tell me tonight.....LOL.
Listen, in all seriousness, I know how it hurt when your D said what she did and the sad thing is that most girls today think that about guys. They will fight other girls over these jerks and have sex with them and let them walk all over 'em just to have them for their "boyfriend"! I don't understand it. Girls get cheated on all the time and all the boy has to do is tell her what she wants to hear and try to squeeze out a sorrowful look and the crazy girl just melts. I want to get ahold of them so badly and shake them until their liver rattles. No wonder young guys have this mentality about girls today. But, anyway, I hope that there is some man in your family that she can look up to and respect and realize that not every single guy cheats. I know that had crush your heart. I don't know how you kept it together when he got home with all of it combined. He better be glad he has a sweet wife like you and not a mean b*tch like me.....cause by the time I had gotten through with him.....he would not have been able to have sex with anyone......or else she would not have been attracted to him.....either way sounds pretty tempting. You do know that I wrote shows like "The Burning Bed" and others, don't you? Just kidding. You probably don't even remember it b/c it was so many years ago about a woman who got fed up with her H abusing her and while he was asleep she tied him in the bed and set it on fire. Everyone acted like they had never thoughy of doing something like that if they were being beaten half to death once a day. I must be mean, cause I think that kind of stuff would just naturally flow into my mind if a man abused me. I heard of one woman that waited until her H went to sleep, tied the bedsheets around him, got an iron skillet and like to have beat him to death with it.....but he never laid another hand on her! I always said they have to go to sleep sometime! You know I am just carrying on to try to get over being mad at that jerk.
You keep those classes! I think it would be fantastic! And let me kind of throw something in the middle of my post here so it doesn't jump out at anyone glancing by...a friend of ours may be coming back on the BB under a different name. That is all I can say for now, but I'll try to let you know when she does. She has to be careful. Anyway, keep working on that "spunk" and don't get more flirty than spunky.....keep it balanced.
Better go for now. Hope you get some rest. Talk to you later.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
That would have made me so mad that it would have been the deal breaker for me.....about the joint banking account (and that stupid lie he told you just insulted your smarts) but then to say he was taking OW on his trip but added all those "excuses" in with it......pleeeeeeease! I just wished you had waited to tell him face to face to catch his facial expression. I also wished you had had a tape recorder! All I can say is that you sure did better than I ever could have......just by not committing murder!! But, I did loooove it when you told him what he was losing in you. Now, that was a good job, sweetie! Just keep remembering that you are the one coming out the winner. 
That is why my H is afraid to pull something like that is b/c I would kill him, plead insanity, and the Judge would know it was the truth! 
You know I am just carrying on to try to get over being mad at that jerk. 