It's kind of a catch 22. Our M issues is that I was controlling, tried to change her and "didn't let W be W". That being said, any boundery would scare W off. Add in the arguement and it's not a good recipe.
I just need to reread my threds, emails and texts. See what worked and if I can live with that.
So long as you have a clear, accurate, and practical definition of "worked." I would contend that fully 75% or more of the folks on these boards define it improperly, and look for (and respond to) the wrong, even counterproductive, things.
