Well counseling is finished. I am glad that I did it and it was a good experience but at the same time I am happy that it is over and that it is now time to move on. We talked a lot about my current situation with being in limbo as far as jobs and where to live, what to do, etc. She just reminded me that my hubby is very young and that this is the normal time to be searching and that I need to be prepared for the fact that he might change his mind several times over the next few years as his brain is still developing and all that. So while I am just about the same age I am more decisive partly being female but also just my background and personality. So basically all the things I said a few posts back. Lol. It was a good session though and I did realize more that I need to back off and let him make decisions in his own timeline. There will be less of a chance of him regreting his choices and wanting change down the road if I give him time and space now. So while it is hard for me to wait for him to make up his mind it was a good reminder that it will be better in the future if I can wait this out another month or whatever.
So hubby was here Thursday and stayed over to Friday and then left from here at 6pm to go to a party with some friends. Yuck. Oh well. Not much I can do about it. Let him get it out of his system now I suppose.
We had a good two days together though. No arguing. And we did not really get annoyed at each other. Maybe a moment or two but nothing that lasts. It's just a stressful time and situation. If we were on our own I don't think we would even get annoyed. It's just being here at my parents house with everyone around is kind of draining. It's weird how we are much better as a couple when we are alone and only with other people every once in awhile as a couple. Don't know why.
He has agreed to come to Christmas with my family so we will drive ourselves to my grandparents which is 3 hours away. Then stay Christmas Eve, and Christmas Day, and then come back the day after so the cats are not alone for too long. Then he will stay here an extra day or two while my family is still with my grandparents. So that will be nice to have a couple days alone. I am just glad we will be together and much happier than we were last year.
Now if we can just get this money situation taken care of, find jobs, and move on in life!!!
He is at his drill weekend today and will be talking to his. . .can't think of the name. . .oh well. He will talk to someone in charge about his situation up to this point and will hopefully get some answers. Then Monday he has a few more calls to make about getting the enlistment bonus. So maybe we will have some answers soon. However that is like the 300th time I've said/thought that.
