Tailor wanna-be..time to mend & craft a lovely M

[S.T. _I Made It!]

remember to try to act as if..for instance with the locking keys in the car. If her normal reaction is to beat herself up, what is YOUR normal reaction? Do something different, be lighthearted, or pull out silly positives from it, like you get to spend a little "parking" time with her in your car, or whatever. It's easy to expect them to react badly and then we end up with our normal responses which usually aren't always the best.

Also, on your question about expectations. Really, we should never hold many expectations. Now for a M couple, there are some things that we can or should expect. like, we should expect our spouse to be faithful, or if we have certain boundaries such as calling if we'll be late or whatever, then we can somewhat expect these things, but we still need to keep our expectations at a minimum so that we do not disappoint ourselves, because no one is perfect, and everyone will disappoint us one time or another, except for our heavenly father that is.

My thing on expectations is a little confusing. While I believe it is good to have expectations of people, letting them know you expect them to be good, or to do a specific job, or to be their best, we need to not have those expectations inside our heads in order for us to not lead us to judge them, or to be disappointed. Does this make sense? So, we let them know what we expect of them and let them think we expect them to be "good", because, when you expect good of someone, you will more often get good, and when you expect bad of someone, you will more often receive bad. While at the same time we leave our expectations in our mind as a blank slate.

I know that's way confusing.