It's kind of a catch 22. Our M issues is that I was controlling, tried to change her and "didn't let W be W". That being said, any boundery would scare W off. Add in the arguement and it's not a good recipe.
I just need to reread my threds, emails and texts. See what worked and if I can live with that.
I feel pretty detached so I might not get around to that for a few days.