Stay out of it. He most likely will not remember much of what took place if he was that drunk.
Your h needs to go back to his "place" or should I say "cave" for some alone time. They need their own space and when it gets to be too much around us, they retreat for a bit. As for the ow, you are giving her far, far too much head space. Put the focus back on you and your children, and let God have this little matter.
Continue decorating and baking for the holidays. These are things that you can control. Unfortunately, no one can control your h except himself and the good man upstairs.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
