Last night there was amature NFC in town. H's nephew fought. The whole family was going. I decided to stay home. H was needing some time alone. I thought staying away from him last night with the moon, the chance of going there and he'd ignore me, just was a better idea to stay away. So cuddled up on the couch with my dogs and watched TV.
D17 went. And the night turned out bad for her. Her dad got really druck I guess. At the fights I guess D17 arm restled. (you sign up to do this during intermission) She lost. Her dad said "your not a ^*$*@+ anymore (our last name)" It ticked her off, she went to walk away and he grabbed her and said he was kidding. She just walked away. Afterwards I guess they all went up town.
Shortly after H left home there was rumor that H had been with this Brandy girl that he worked with. (I don't think it was true) D17 knew this. Well she was there last night. Brandy stood by H at the bar and they were talking. The longer it went on the more D17 was ticked. She finally went up to H and asked him what he was doing. He said nothing and she didn't believe him. She assumed that there was something going on between them. H got mad and D17 was upset too. H eventually left. D went out to see if he'd let her drive him home. He got mad at her for that too. A few words were exchanged, D17 ended up crying and came home. H went up to his moms and passed out and didn't drive.
Wow, glad I wasn't there. D17 came home crying and said she hates her dad. I hurt for her. I grew up with a kind and gentle father but when he was drunk he could say the most hurtful things so I could really understand her pain. I tried to talk to her. I didn't make exuses for him but tried to get her to see to seperate the man from the behaviour. She wasn't having any of it. He hurt her and that was that.
My question is do I stay out of this? Or do I talk to H? I can guarantee that he won't remember half of it.
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
