Tonight, at 11:23pm (ahh, the beauty of cell phone time stamps!) my phone rang. It was XW calling. She asked me a few inane questions and then got to the point when I told her that yes, I was in fact wide awake. I asked her if everything was OK, because she sounded upset. She said she was, but said she didn't want to stay home. She asked me if she could spend the night. I told her, you know your always welcome.
She showed up about 20 minutes later and our S3 was still awake and acting crazy wired. XW spoke to me for a few minutes after we laid S3 back down, and I asked her again, "Why did you want to come over here?" She said everything is fine and she just wanted to be with her family (without making it a point to exclude me). I don't believe her. I believe she is having an emotional crisis of some sort and it's quite possible that she's finally starting to process all of her feelings associated with our divorce and also process her feelings for me with all the work I have done on myself and continue to do. Who knows? Just a thought.
I am very wary of XW. I know I did what I did. In response to that hurt, she has certainly delved out a boat load of emotional pain to me. My guess is that I need to simply remain patient and continue along the same path that is resulting in our closing the gap between us. I welcome any thoughts, any pointing to specific reading material (please, NOT the whole book) that would be of productive use, and any flat out advice with perhaps, your own experiences in working to reconcile your M.
Thanks all, Tom
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07
