TxMom, read the e-mail, it was very good and thoughtful but ABSOLUTELY do not bring up to H. Then H will think it was your idea and it will lose its effectiveness. Zip your lips as they say. I do that with my H some times. I tell him something because it has so much impact on me and all H does is get annoyed. Have stopped this behavior.
As tough as it is for the LBS, I know it is not easy for our WAS for the holiday. I know my oldest D has told me she is not calling her father that day because he should be with them. When H is with OW -- it is not their family, kids etc. I know my H will probably spend the day depressed and drunk. Nothing I can do.

Keep in touch.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09