Ls both said that it will help because I have so much more asset wise than my H. 401K is 5x more, stocks, and ownership in Mom's house. There is no way I am giving H what we worked for 21 years to the gold digger OW. It will not affect visitation. Also H has racked up about 10K of credit card bills since June most spent on OW. I am sure she is encouraging this because she figures we will have to split it. Not going to happen also.
PI also gave me background on OW so far. It is pretty ugly - 2 D, took both xHs for a ride financially, couple of lawsuits, etc. Found some Pics of her on my space...everyone except one she is various stages of drinking - heavily. Pretty sad. My H in a fog and addicted to this OW is clueless. He will has to figure it out himself.
PI was $1500. Ouch but at this point I need to try and protect myself because H is soooo out of it and I do not want to be unprepared. I hate this.
It will be weird with H taking us to the airport but then I can leave my car at home. He is coming in to also watch the dog...how sad is that. I know it will bother him being in our home, all decorated for Christmas and we are gone. I am planning some good times, going to NYC, night at the casino and visiting friends. Will I be sad -- yes but I am going to make the best of it and try and be happy.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
