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{{{SMW}}} Thank you my friend..well if you read above I said HE really doesn't know, as far as I know, about when/where/how he'll be moving out..I'll be surprised (I mean not really but) when that does happen..we'll see..

I am thinking he'll start looking harder/looking after the first of the year..I think now his trip and Christmas is what he's focusing on!

LOL..thank you about the bleeding thru the money part..that made me laugh \:\) I am extra glad that I have this trip to look forward to knowing what I know now..so SMW HOW did you know I would really need this eh? ;\) Oh wait..I know..you are a praying woman \:D

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Now I look like a stalker!!
You have managed to roll half a dozen talks I have had with "nappy hoe" (check LiS thread for reference) into 1 looooong talk!

Jokes....check

OP and kids...better then mine!

Making all the good changes....check again!

Proud of you!!

Do YOU feel better? You know that chit has been building up! The key is that WE come here and vent...gain some insight...you catch my drift. When these talks come up we handle them like champs!
Question.....did H seem scared/nervous/taken back by your strength?

The last talk like this we had.....the night I caught her on phone with OM....I swear I could SMELL her FEAR....I wasn't evil or anything.....calmness and truthfulness can be a damn scary combo!!


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{{{{{Tawnya}}}}}

I think you know by now I am not a big "online" hugger, but man do you deserve all the hugs in the world.

Sounds like you handled a very hurtful and difficult conversation with grace, poise, dignitiy and serious DB chops.

Gives me some perspective about my own silly little pity party today.

I am thinking of you and will check in on you often.

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{{{Carp}}} HOw cool..my own stalker \:D I just SAW and responded to your bad nappy hoe comment LOL! By the way, forgot to add that sometime during our convo tonight I actually called the OW "sloppy seconds" LOL..I forgot about that \:D

Thank you that you are proud of me..I DO feel better, but yet exhausted, if that makes sense...

Umm..did he seem nervous..not so much, I think I WAS surprised that he really seemed to be LISTENING when I was talking about how much I was worth it..maybe taken aback a bit would be a good way to put it..he looked like a whipped puppy (sorry no offense PDT) at some point during the convo..and it WAS after those I'm worth it comments that his "if this goes all the way to that point" comments came..hmm..

{{Carp}} Thank you for being my first stalker and I didn't even have to bake you a pie \:\)

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Aww {{{Beth}}} MY friend..thank you for taking time out to check in with me this evening..my sweet friend!

Don't feel badly at all about your feelings..they are yours and you are totally allowed to have them..just not for too long or I'll have to roam the streets of Charlotte yelling for you LOL!

THANK YOU for the hugs..they mean a lot!

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(((((((TAWNYA))))))))

I'm so proud of you!!!! You did great...on the lunch...keep up that friendship...it will prove invaluable!

But, you did fantastic during your convo. with H!!! You were that beautiful, strong, wonderful woman that your H will be crazy to leave and should want to crawl through broken glass to get back to once he wakes up!!!!!!!!

If I hadn't had the week I had, I'd have been floored by the joint account stuff! But, after my week (and now yours) nothing surprises me!

You sound really good. Keep up the PMA, and don't let yourself backslide! Of course, I'll be here to help you on that front!!!

Love and hugs to you!
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Better but exhausted is good. Remember when your were all flipped out and exhausted!!?? Emotions take energy...

Obviously the "nappy hoe" is only for "special" ladies....god that makes me ill to type that....blech!

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{{{Amy}}} Aww thank you..I'm glad the convo sounded good from you guys' perspective..hopefully I've given hub some things to think about..his brain is probably spinning cause, sorry guys, but we all know guys don't like long convos anyway..LOL

Amy..thank you for reminding me about the broken glass comment..I had forgotten about that! \:\) And please DO keep me straight!

{{Carp}} Hope I'm not "that special" \:D You are right..better and exhausted is good compared to flipped out and exhausted!

The fact that we can have that kind of convo and then still be nice to each other and laughing about the cat just 5 minutes ago is a nice feeling \:\)

Off to bed, I hope..I have to work tomorrow (bleh!)

THANK YOU to all of you who hopped on here tonight for ME and special thanks to my "stalker" ;\)

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Originally Posted By: Tawnya
....he said "Mac and Jack" (Mac is the cat and Jack is the dog) he said, they should both go with me, it rhymes and I said smack rhymed too..could I give him that? \:\)


Tawnya!

Guess I just missed you... Just have to respond to your hilarious sense of humor!! Just love you comment above! I could not have thought of saying that in this kind of sitch in a million years! LOL! That shows how much control you have over your emotions! You're doing great!

Originally Posted By: Tawnya
Anyway..so..if you are STILL here after all of this, thanks for reading and listening and for being there! \:\)

Tawnya


Your posts are very helpful and informative. I didn't realize that this is your 5th thread already!! I think you and I started posting about the same time in October and I'm only starting my 2nd thread....

I will try to check in more often!


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{{{Sam}}} Thank you SO much..and I am glad you enjoyed my humor..I'm a dork for sure LOL \:\) And, as I said earlier, I am VERY yappy, which is probably why I'm on my 5th thread and about my 800th post \:D (what can I say?)

BY the way..hopefully my stalker won't read this part, he may get upset, but Sandi will like it \:\) You mentioned being flirty earlier and I TOTALLY forgot this part of the convo I had with hub:

I told hub that I thought it was "dangerous" to take that long drive with OW if he is not wanting to go into the PA territory (which he claims they haven't..I think he's really scared actually about the alimony repercussions of that..which he sorta hinted at tonight)..ANYWAY..I said that I knew that when WE took that trip that we NEVER made the drive without stopping a few times on the way (for FUN recreational purposes, if you catch my drift ;\) And he said, I promise this is his wording: "It is something we (hub and OW) have both talked about and are not even considering, but if it was you(me) going, sure I would be thinking about it, but with her I'm not"..and I said, "hmm..good to know" and kinda winked..

Dunno WHAT that really meant..but it was kinda flirty and thought you'd appreciate it \:\)

Sorry {{Carp}} If you read that!

Tawnya

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