Tawnya - You were not kidding with the big event you had today. Feeling pretty embarassed about my meltdown. I posted to you on your thread. I am so impressed with you!
Techguy - I like that last post of mine much better, too. I like feeling this way much more. Got to keep working at keeping this attitude going.
As for not being dark all the time, my coach said the same thing. She said when dealing with the depressed/MLC spouse, you have to realize there is a serious loss of energy for them. They cannot make themselves do things, like initiate contact, as often as we LBS's might like and that we should not assume that no contact from them means they do not want any from us. So long as they respond to us, it is okay to keep going.
She also said it is important for us to understand the mindset of the MLC/WAS. For WAW it is an escape from control - they do not want to be controlled and for the WAH it is an escape from feelings of inadequacy.
JWM - thanks again for trying to reach me earlier today. You tried to show me the positives, I just could not get out of my own way to see what was right there.
