yes you are perverse. hahaha that's okay, we still love you
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I would say you need some sleep...................and apparently the company of your darling if you are envisioning lady's parts...
Good night sweet Tomato. God Bless you.
I got some rest w/ the emphasis on "some". My body is to patterned to ever get any more than just about 4 hours like clock work. Real tough to break those rhythms.
I do need some of her "company" ..very true. Or it is at least approaching needing it. I guess I desire it ..rather.
None of us need them, really.
Live in the moment my dear and make those moments special for you and those you are with. The Lord is always with you.
Thanks for stopping by. I can't catch up on all that has happened. School has really cut into my social life.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
And really mine is not a mile a minute type of sitch here. It moves more or less like I do ..snail-like. I have been and probably always will be a relatively slow and deliberate paced person. It pretty much suits me. That is one of the .. 'opposite attractions' that exists between me and my beautiful darling. She is the one that is always cranked up (even if by the unnatural sources of Mt Dew or Red Bull)and operated off of a continual torrent of very nervous energy.
Anyway I was attempting to say, before I took a ...rare.. digression LOL that mine is not really a hard sitch to get caught up on. And fortunately while it is not nearly as stable as I would like it to be and presently is rather irregular once again on the communication front, my sitch is not doing too badly. As a 'non-virtual' buddy pointed out (& yes I do have a couple of them on staff and have the ad running for more applicants...LOL) when my darling and I hit some patches of roughness there seems to be progressively shorter amounts of elapsed time that it takes to begin to regather ourselves. I will take him on his word on that one. I would love to agree fully with it. There are some good indicators present to back that up.
Our most recent bout of friction and tension occured almost a week ago. The account is given of that episode of our 'sitcom' as it were on the page before this one I believe. It was as they almost always are ..a stupid disagreement. She was stretched to the limit of her ability to cope with anything and everything and was pretty hot under the collar when after our nice breakfast together she learned that she couldn't get into her car on that bitter cold AM cuz she had made the blunder of leaving her car keys on the passenger seat as she hopped out with her phone glued to her ear. So we did the troubleshooting of the situation sitting in my car while we waited for them to come and unlock her door. Whatever decent attitude she might have been holding that day went out the window. Not exactly something that works well towards fostering a good opinion of yourself .. in other words she routinely "beats herself up". And some of those flailing figurative punches miss the mark (unless they were intended for me to begin with).
I am tired of typing and I more than likely have too much to do that will not be accomplished by my lingering on here.
The Lord willsustain you and bring about change in you and will always steer you right. Trust in Him. Now is the time for Faith. Happy journeys everybody. Speak with a smile to others and wear that smile when praying to our magnificent Lord.
remember to try to act as if..for instance with the locking keys in the car. If her normal reaction is to beat herself up, what is YOUR normal reaction? Do something different, be lighthearted, or pull out silly positives from it, like you get to spend a little "parking" time with her in your car, or whatever. It's easy to expect them to react badly and then we end up with our normal responses which usually aren't always the best.
Also, on your question about expectations. Really, we should never hold many expectations. Now for a M couple, there are some things that we can or should expect. like, we should expect our spouse to be faithful, or if we have certain boundaries such as calling if we'll be late or whatever, then we can somewhat expect these things, but we still need to keep our expectations at a minimum so that we do not disappoint ourselves, because no one is perfect, and everyone will disappoint us one time or another, except for our heavenly father that is.
My thing on expectations is a little confusing. While I believe it is good to have expectations of people, letting them know you expect them to be good, or to do a specific job, or to be their best, we need to not have those expectations inside our heads in order for us to not lead us to judge them, or to be disappointed. Does this make sense? So, we let them know what we expect of them and let them think we expect them to be "good", because, when you expect good of someone, you will more often get good, and when you expect bad of someone, you will more often receive bad. While at the same time we leave our expectations in our mind as a blank slate.
I know that's way confusing.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
