Another Wife Hit by the Bomb Thread #5

[Tawnya]

OK..so today started out well, Amy would be proud, I had called up a friend of mine that I hadn't seen in forever, who is in a similar sitch actually, she and hub split in March of this past year..anyway..we met and went to the Olive Garden for lunch and ended up talking for 3 hours..she didn't really know what I had going on until today..and we both decided we would be another support system for each other..she is a WONDERFUL person and I am glad we have each other cause we really understand what the other is going thru..

ANYWAY..so I call hub after I talk to this lady to ask him a question about something I wondered if he was involved in, very non-threatening, just in an "I wanted to know" kinda way, he was nice and answered and we had a talk and basically it was a "I wouldn't lie you to about yada yada" and it was cool. OK..so I had gotten home by that time while I was on the phone, checked our mail, and just hung up when..badadada: There is a bank statement from a bank we don't bank at with my husband's name AND THE OTHER WOMAN'S NAME on it..OKKKKKKKKKKKKKK..so first of all, I was RIGHT the whole time who the other woman was, even tho hub told me it wasn't her: (love how God has a way of making things come to light..don't you? Turns out hub had set it up to get all his statements online..and it was never suppose to come to the house..I had to chuckle about that)

ANYWAY..so I immediately call husband back and I'm actually pretty calm and say, "you know how you JUST said you wouldn't lie to me about stuff" and he says yes..I said..you know how you told me the OW was not "this chick" and he said, "yes" and I said, so how come we just got a bank statement with your and HER name on it? So, of course, he says yes and that she was setting aside money to "protect it from the others" (i.e. her husband) and so anyway..then for a brief sec he turns it around to "why am I opening the mail" (gotta love deflection)..and I"m like, yeah I opened it, my address, but I didn't need to open it to see both names because they are on the front address.

So, along those lines, after I realize this joint checking crap has occurred, I ask hub if he is actually going on this trip to his family's home that he is taking next weekend by himself or not? (I should know immediately the answer by his reaction)..he says "why does it matter? blah blah" finally, he tells me that (surprise) "girl who is just a friend, doesn't mean anything that I just opened a joint checking account with is going with me to my family's area.." tho supposedly NOT going to meet his family, just was "convenient" because her family is nearby and her mother was coming back to visit or live or whatever..whatever CRAP.....

So, we talk and then he's like "I'm gonna come home and we are gonna talk about everything, I'm coming in with both barrels, the kids will know everything, all of it tonight"..

So..I have to say..the checking thing bothered me less than the "my husband is disrespecting me by taking this chick to (near) whatever his family" and wasn't going to tell me..and so I come in, knowing that hub said he was gonna tell the kids everything, talk to daughter, tell her dad is ticked and may be having "the convo" (tho she knows everything), show her the bank statement thing with her name on it..and she's like not really freaked out(cause she knew there was an OW)..

Sad side note, I ask her is she ok and she says yes, and I say "why is this ok"..she said "mom it's not okay for you, but this is what "they" (guys) do..and I just started to cry..and said NO..this is NOT what they all do..(and I told my hub that..I said you need to know that this is what daughter THINKS now..live with that!)

Anyway..so I call son out and say, dad may be having the convo with you tonight and there is another part he may tell you that you don't know (cause I didn't tell him about the OW)..son says ok, I tell him and daughter both that I am sorry that they have to go thru this (yes Sandi..I know LOL)..they both tell me that it's not my fault..and I say I know..

Anyway gonna split this post into 2 parts so I don't totally freak anyone out LOL

Tawnya