Here is an update.

I was out of town Wed - back today Friday. as mentioned above H was little perturbed that he had to watch girls both nights this weekend and was short on Thursday night b/c he had plans Saturday night with OW.. I played it cool and didn't force it but said I'd get back to him later that night or this morning about whether to watch girls tonight or not.

Friday morning I call at 8:30am trying to reach D4 to say good morning on way to school... then call at 9am trying to catch H so I could talk to D4 but he didn't answer either time... I left message the second time ..

He texts me

H - your girls are great! Don't want to talk to anybody today

Me - Thx - hope your ok!

H - Nope - I don't care so u shouldn't

I don't respond .. then about 2:30pm he text

H - I can't watch girls tonight - I'm not good

I called - he didn't answer I left VM - that I got his message and that was fine about tonight, that I know he told me not to care but that I do... told him that if I can't get in by 5pm I'd call him back..

My nanny told me that after he came back with D4 after school at noon he either took nap or was in our room for awhile and that he did seem sad or not himself.

I'm glad - it could be a mixture of reasons... Since my friend sent him her email Tuesday he has been litte short or edgy.. maybe he read her letter last night ..... but I know he is with OW tonight .... As ST or PM stated.. when they are sad, guilty, grumpy just know that all is not well in fairytale land with OW or the guilt is getting to him... We didn't have any convo that would have prompted this so I just continued being friendly. At least I know he is struggling some too..

any thoughts let me have it...


Me: 38/H:40
M:7yrs
TG: 10yrs
2Girls: 4yr & 7 month old
Bomb 8/22/08
OW/EA/PA 8/23/08 with 25yr old
Moved out 9/22/08

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