As for the "reaching out" comment, if I know him at all, it is just to avoid saying "I'll email" you next week because that sounds so cold. It is cold and it is all he does, if anything, so why is he such a friggin' coward about calling it like he's doing it?
And you may be right that he may not actually have any fun and not want to admit it, but why tell me at all. It's cruel. He is cold, and selfish and I am so tired of loving him anyway.
Now I am the one who is pi$$ed that we cannot get divorced before next August.
Wooooo Beth! I travel for a couple of days and things end up in a tailspin. My gosh!
I've got to call this one like I see it. I can't see anything your husband did to justify your reaction.
You (subtly) asked him for help. He responded right away (good thing). He offered to help (good thing). He shared something about his life (good thing).
He's not a bad man for travelling out of town on business. He's not a bad man for trying to have some fun in his life. He's not a bad man for saying he'll "reach out" rather than "email".
If anything, as you note, "reach out" does sound more personal. I'd be happy if my wife said she would be reaching out to me.
It seems to me like you've probably had a bunch of frustrations building up and this was a trigger to let them loose. I believe you will feel better about this soon.
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