Divorced, but 'still hopeful' to reconcile.

[still hopeful]

Strange call last night. I received a call from XW's mom, or XMiL. XMiL told me that she needed a favor and I said, OK...? She continued to ask me what is going on with XW? XW works for XMiL, and has for years. I didn't have anything damaging to tell XMiL so I told her she seemed to be doing fine and that she and I had been doing really well for the past 5-7 days. XMiL told me that vendors were complaining about XW's volatility, plus XW misses more work than XMiL would like. I simply told XMiL that I don't work at her company and I haven't witnessed any volatility with any vendors because I wasn't there to witness these alleged outbursts. XMiL then asks me if I think XW is on drugs (she has a past issue with addiction, another story for another time) and that she is primarily looking our for her grandchildren, our D8 and S3's well-being.

I told her, she doesn't seem to be. Her behavior has been less erratic, especially in the past week, but I am certainly no expert on what drug use looks like, as I have no experience with using drugs or associating with people who do. XMiL then told me what ALL of her family members tell me when we talk, "This conversation did NOT happen," as no one wants to be on XW's 'hit list' for, as she would consider, going against her. Some may feel that my talking with XMiL was wrong, but I do know that XMiL loves XW and wants the best for her. Additionally, I would only tell XMiL if I thought XW was actually on drugs with convincing evidence to that end or if I witnessed drug usage or the effects of having used drugs. Safety for our children first and for her second. One CPS case in their lifetime is plenty. Any advice on a similar approach by XMiL is welcome.

Well, THAT was a long bit of typing to tell you all that XW's mother is looking at her with a raised eyebrow. I don't know what to make of it, but I do care. I know XMiL well enough to know that she has no qualms about throwing XW under the bus to look like the good guy to the vendors, and has done so on a semi-regular basis. Ugh, I care about this because I care about XW and her relationship with her mother, but at the same time I know there is nothing I can do to help the situation except listen to XW word dump about her mother and remind her that she (XW) is NOT the boss at her mom's business. Again, advice is welcome, even if it's to mind my own business.

Have a great evening.
Tom