Mo I understand what you are saying. I wish it were that easy. H does have his days with the kids, but if he says I can't pick them up what choice do I have. If I say well neither can I h, just find some help, he won't find the help. Then my s7 will be getting off the bus and nobody will be there.
You enable him . You problem solve for him
If he cannot meet his responsibilities with the kids , then take it off him. Do not involve him with childcare. It might cost more but this mess will get costly. It might be all he needs to wake up a bit. you seem needy and dependent of him. Start standing on your own 2 feet.
I think your H has not left the house but he may do. act as if he has already. He may just need the break.
