I was hounded and hounded by my H for years. I lied and kept the secret. When I did tell the truth it was freeing BUT more importantly it let go of the OM. up until then i was sharing a dirty little ecret with him.
I know with absolute certainty that as long as she continues to deny , or talk to this other guy, you cannot improve things. I also know that hounding her may eventually give you the truth but it will still be you moving on, which will either give her the wake up call or she will leave.
You have lost her at the moment and even though it goes against everything you want to do, it will be you having enough and accepting that, that will be you answer.
Remember A are decietful and ugly and do not last. So even if she does go, once you dont care all the fun and excitement will deflate and the appeal wil lose its shine.
