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[Sugar and Spice]

Mike just because you have found F*cktards in the past, doesn't mean that they are your future. Besides, it sounds like you could probably give a seminar on how to be a "great date."

Going back to gestures... I am a woman that has not been very demanding. Gestures, gifts, words had become "unecessary" in my M. From my H's side. I would still buy him gifts, cook his favourite dinner, wear sexy lingerie (despite the fact he laughed looking at me in those)and be "good" to him etc. etc.

Not everything I did was because it was my "favourite" thing to do (taking his suits at the cleaners in the morning when I was always late at work wasnt my best thing, but it would allow him to sleep in and it was worth the effort).

Guess what? After a while the relatiosnship became... lazy. And I got lazy too. I never expected him to go out of his way for me, with a surprise, a gift, an "extra" thoughtful gesture. An I thought I was over "these things". But in restrospective, it did matter. It mattered so much. Because these things "feed" love.

For me doing things for the one I love is a great staisfaction. Because I can "see" his smile, hear the thrill in his voice even beforehand. So the gesture per se, may not be what I like, but the result is what I enjoy the most.

Mike, women do appreciate these things. And you know what? When they are mature enough and not selfcentered they appreciate the "thought" behind the gesture even if the gesture sometimes is a bit ...off.
K

Kalni got it EXACTLY right.