checking in so you all dont freak. yes hope i was hoping too i would get a break, but it will be a bit before that happens. I am still breathing, i am still here.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
well i sent h an email, kel is checking it now, she might beat me, we shall see.
now the waiting to see what he does. ugh i hate waiting.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
hey, IMHO, I don't think it really has to do with the house or where she lives. I think she's just trying to play that game so that it's a battle between son and wife. the more she keeps things separated, the harder it's going to be for both Baby AND her H.
the legal thing reallly really needs to get started. B, try to think of something creative that will get H to start that process. ??
and, I would continue to be compassionate towards him so that he has no reason to resent you and it will put more of the focus on her as the problem. Try not to be the one that focuses on how aweful she is being, try to let him lead that and try not to say to much, but just validate him. Otherwise, you can find him defending her if you are badmouthing her. He may even feel the same way, but he did make a choice to be with her in the past, so he can take offense to any comments you may make against her.
okay, not sure why I went on that tangent, but sometimes my mind wonders.
anyways, your doing awesome baby, and believe that you are...you have so much going on, so much tribulation that you'd think it was the end times if we just based it on your life!!! But believe that it can only get better...start talking positives into your life. Tell yourself everyday how beautiful you are and how strong you are and how great your life is, and you will get there.
love you!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
hey crissy. well my email was compasionate i think, idk, kel only said something about speechless, but i think I did exactly what you just told me to up there, EVEN after last nite and all he said and as awful as it was, I think I actually cried screamed and got it all out.
its in his court now, but he keeps telling me how strong I am, and to hang in there, maybe I am the only one strong enuff to get this family thru it.
and i wait.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Thanks for the encouragement you posted over on my thread. I really appreciated it! You say I am "amazing", but I have to tell ya', I've been reading back through your sitch and it becomes very clear to me that what I am is an amazingly big wimp! Your sitch makes mine look like a tea party! And the strength and grace and humor you show in dealing with your pain humbles me. And I am very thankful to the fates that led me to this place where I can see women such as you (and I have seen several on these boards) who provide me (and all of us) with such a shining example of true heroism!
YOU ARE AMAZING!!!
.....and I don't have a woodchipper.......but I do have a chainsaw!! That would be more fun anyway. It's much more "hands on" !!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
That would be more fun anyway. It's much more "hands on" !! 
