Hey guys, was at the Wal Mart, then cleaning a bit, then I spilled candle wax on the kitchen tile, so still working on that one! Dinner last night was fun, then Tiff works in OW's town and saw H's jeep there while driving around before dinner, so she told me how to get there, so after our dinner on my way to Tiff's house took a bit of detour, well....what would the odds be that H would be coming out as I was driving by????? Let's just say for me pretty damn good. H saw me, but I didn't look over, but by the time I was too the corner to turn to Tiff's house he was on my ass. H turned the other way, I was calling her telling her what are the odds????
So I stay there for around hour and 1/2 and go home, I knew H would be out to watch the football game on NFL network, doesn't have that at OW's house. So I get home and he and SD are there. I could tell he was PISSED. But I had a good story, so asked if he wanted my left overs from Chilies, then talked about what I had drank, and Tiff had an electric lemonade, she only drank 1/2 I did the other half, then I said. Had to take Tiff back to her car in OW's town, cause she had rode with another friend, and then get back to her house. Said she tried to get me lost in XXX town. So that seemed to make him feel better. Not the truth I know, but...it worked at that point. We talked about SD and graduating and Christmas stuff, what we were doing this weekend. Should be going to the Chiefs on Sunday with tickets from H's work, we are going to tailgate. At half time we drove over and looked at the lights, I had told H about them that I had driven around on Wed looking at lights before I make the tarts, and took the lights off the tree. Took H a long time to leave after the game, he was wanting sex, he didn't get that, but it was a nice time. He told me he missed me too. So maybe the two days of not much contact did some good. I guess we will see. H called me twice this morning while I was at Wal Mart about the football sheet, so I called him back when I got home, and he wanted to talk dirty on the phone then too. Said maybe he should come home for lunch. He is trying to get me to believe, that he isn't doing anything with OW, or I think he is with his comments. Don't know that I believe that too much. But that is the impression he is working on. But for now it is OK, I am going to get through SD's graduation and Christmas and then I am going to have to set my boundary out there on not coming to the house and calling. It will be hard, but if he hasn't decided that I am where he needs to be for the new year, he is going to have to see what life is like without me in it at all.
So I am good guys! Just got busy this morning. Not looking forward to the weather first of the week ICE STORM!!! Not again!
Hope everyone is having a great day, now I need to go get the candle wax off the floor. YIPEE!
Hey Tomato- Sorry your weather sounds YUCKY! I am afraid we will be getting some soon. Today is really nice in the 40's and 50's, supposed to be close to 60 this weekend, then it goes down hill very fast! Hope your skies are beautiful!
One thing I did notice, he is still living out of his jeep, the back seat was full of clothes, and stuff, plus he had his dirty clothes in wal mart bags.
Thanks for stopping by over on my thread. You seem like a very fun lady!
I understand your feeling compelled to do the drive by of the OW's house. And I commend you on your creative thinking to get out of it....
I actually went up and knocked on the OW's door a couple days after I found out. Tried 3 times, in fact, but she was never home. I look at that now as the gods looking out for me. I had some crazy idea that I was going forgive her (i.e. show her that I was the better woman by rising above her). Crazy, huh!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
oh please. I actually went to lunch with OW2, hugged her and then went out on double date with her and her H and me and mine. Talk about glutton for punishment. Just forget about them. They really aren't worth the time and energy we put into thinking about them. MT, you are doing good. Yes get through the holidays and go from there. and don't get caught trying to see what he is doing again. I know it's hard to not wonder but in the end you are just hurting yourself more.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Hold on here MT. You were driving by a public business where ow works and caught your H being there and HE is MAD at you!!! That would have been a good time to unload on HIM! Oh well, you're a much better DBer than I.
Let's see, ow has been to my house and had her horse in my barn, one time when I knew H was going to the place where she boarded her horse I showed up with Christmas lunch for everyone and sat between H and ow, I've knocked on the door of her apartment when H's truck was parked outside, I've opened her locked gate at her new palace and looked for H when he was 'missing' in the middle of the night when I arrived home early from a trip. Another time she called H for a horse emergency and I wouldn't let him go without me. Do I win any prizes?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
