Hey, MC! Ok, I'm trying so hard to listen to you. Here's what I'm getting:
1. Don't speed up the D. Do things at my own pace.
2. Do not pick up the phone, text, or email back. Wait 24 hours to respond.
3.Drop the rope - until I get there, act AS IF. I seriously I am having a hard time thinking how to do this, but ok. Friendly but not a friend. Unavailable. Mysterious. Work on me. Stop thinking about him. Stop engaging him in convo.
Ok, I hear you. I'm going to repeat that stuff to myself until my eyeballs fall out.
~Nas
I'll continue to repeat it to you as well.
I made statements to my W early on. "You're either working on the marriage or you are getting out. If you don't work on it, then I'll file for D."
I made threats and wasn't prepared to back it up. In the end, it only made me more angry and frustrated with the whole situation.
I wish I had JUST STOPPED TALKING TO HER.
I would also recommend - no drinking. Deal with your issues in positive ways. Get out with friends, go exercise, etc. Try to minimize the time spent thinking about your sitch (you can't really stop it all together). DO THE RIGHT THING REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOUR H IS DOING!!
