All of what you feel is valid. This is part of the rollercoaster.
Look at the positives, if you can:
You are obviously the more attractive option between you and OW.
You know about the affair.
He is still trying to contact you.
You have found DB, and he doesn't know it.
You are successful without him.
You don't have children involved.
It sounds like you have friends that support YOU (becareful - they don't like to see you in pain and will advise you to get out of that pain ASAP - which may not be best for you and your H long term)
