STEPPING out...

[tpaschal]

Cagz,

Yes, they are weird!

Hi! How are you? I've been gone off the boards for a long while---dealing with real life. The D was final the day before Thanksgiving, and the house is now on the market.

Problem, though---H didn't bother to read the actal decree because he was in such a hurry to get it done, and is now realizing that there's a couple of things in there that he doesn't like. Namely, that I asked for it to be included that there can't be any "unrelated visitors with whom the party is having an intimate dating relationship in the same residence with the children between the hours of 8pm and 8am."

My L asked for it to be included, his L made no objection, and H's L's office was in charge of writing up the document. So, they included it, I signed, H signed, it was filed.

Then about a week later, H invites kids to go along with him and OW on a weekend trip. I'm sure he only invited them because he was sure I would say no, but I call his bluff and say yes. Then OW brings it to his attention that this is included in the decree, so oh, isn't it sad, the kids won't be able to come along on her romantic birthday weekend trip after all. (can you feel the sarcasm?)

I'm pretty convinced that she knew it was in the decree all along, but didn't care because she thought it would force him to marry her that much faster. And, of course, because until they are married it's a perfect excuse in cases like this---she doesn't have to worry about the kids coming along. She knows he's not going to cancel fun plans with her just because it means he can't be with his kids. No way in h*ll! So, she gets her fun, with no kids included.

But H isn't having it. He told his mom a few weeks ago that he has no intention of getting married again, and maybe he means it, cause get this---H is having his L re-open the case to try to get that taken out!!

Blech. He doesn't want to marry the OW, but he wants the right to have her spend the night even when the kids are there. yuck, yuck, yuck.

So....how weird is that? To sign a divorce decree, hell, to sign ANY legal document that's so important, without reading it??? Very weird to me.