A, If you are invited to family functions and you feel comfortable about it, then go. How to you feel about the gifts coming from the two of you? Your children are older and know what is going on. Maybe it's time to tell your h that you'll get your own and he can give to them separately. It definitely would send a message to him that you are moving on. It may even get him to thinking about what he's done and continues to do.
I would stand my ground about walk thrus after school. I would not change that for him or the lawyers. It's not safe.
You are doing well. Hope you are just about ready for the holidays.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
