I hear you. Not getting a real trigger - just seems to be whenever she starts a conv in person, she goes off the deep end. In text, more clarity and lack of emotion so maybe there is something to at least respond to.
I do need to respond. How about the KISS principle.
"W, we can start by letting each other know what is happening and not using the k's as go betweens. I believe this is something we can both improve on."
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LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.