I'm starting to wonder if H is really in MLC or that he may be a WAS.
He exhibits MLC characteristics at times but for the most part it's like he walked out of our life together, shut the door and started a new life with OW and her 3 kids and doesn't look back or regrets a thing.
H doesn't call me to see how things are with S's or our home. I usually have to call him. He will speak with S's about things but I don't believe he ever ask how I am. I don't ask the boys if he does. Even during the hurricane we had he didn't call me to see how we were or how our house was. He called a friend of ours that had stayed with me. It's like out of sight out of mind. I used to think it's because he feels guilty but it's been a year now and now I wonder if it's because he has moved on to his 'happier' life and wants nothing further to do with me.
H has lived with OW and her kids for almost a year now.
Our D will be final in April 2009.
H has always been the type to like having his ego stroked. I know that this is what helped OW get him because I didn't have time to do it. I didn't appreciate him (nor he me) and wasn't the one to initiate ML. H had told me one time early in our marriage that he didn't find me attractive because I'd gained a lot of weight and would sometimes prefer to pleasure himself instead of ML with me. So, you can see why I wouldn't want to initiate.
OW isn't skinny anymore (all the alcohol that they drink - they are both heavy drinkers on a daily basis) and she's bossy. So, I was wondering if maybe, on the rare occassion that I speak with H, if I should try and flirt with him. If I can remember how. Any thoughts anyone.
There has been a lot of chaos in H's family over Christmas holiday. Since one of his brothers (BIL #4) passed away this year, BIL & SIL #1 asked H's mother if they could do Christmas at their home. She agreed. H's sister #2 came into town (she LIKES OW) and said no that Christmas would be at OW's house. This cause a BIG uproar. SIL #1 even left BIL #1 for about a week over it. Things have calmed down sil #1 went back to bil #1 and Christmas will be at their home. H was speaking with sil #6 regarding all of this and insinuated that I had a hand in all of this. SIL #6 set him straight that I had NO part in this whatsoever. H said he was glad to hear that. Why would he care? Does this mean anything?
Also, on a couple of occassions that OW and sitch has been brought up, H says that 'Well, I have to have a place to live don't I?' WTF does this mean?
