Still More to Learn

[Tawnya]

{{{Beth}}} I really wasn't trying to make you feel better as much as making you see that YOU do have value and worth and NO you are not stupid for wanting someone who doesn't seem to want you..YOU took your vows seriously and thought he did the same..because I feel the same way my friend! It is not weakness to be fighting for your marriage, it is inner strength (mules just posted that in a reply..so I totally just stole that line from him..but it is true and fits!)

As for handling this well..well you know what..YOU are totally allowed to handle this how you are handling it and, if a coworker was going thru what you are, you would not tell her not to cry at work or whatever..you would be sympathetic and understand that it is HELL what we are all going thru..I will GUARANTEE people around you that know your sitch, if there are any, think you are AMAZING..my friends here say I am so strong and I'm like "are you kidding?" LOL..because inside I don't FEEL strong most of the time..but the way you and I are handling things shows a TON about character..and sweetie..you've got it in spades!

However, YES he was a JERK to tell you that he was going away because he deserved it..what the heck man..LOL..if he deserves that, then you deserve a 2 week spa vacation or a trip around the world or something..at one point I got so mad about this sitch for me..I was like "what the heck..my hub has put me thru crap over the past 20 years too and now he wants to divorce ME???"

Maybe..this current email thing will help you drop the rope more than you think..if you look at it in some positive way, maybe that's it?

Tawnya