"Now he is showing such great compassion for a man he hardly knows. I don't get it. It's as if he can have NO compassion for me. It's like he is so cold and hard towards me."
My take is this: No strings attached with the co-worker and no feelings or responsibilities. With you and the kids there are all of those things and he cannot always deal with it.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19