Life in the Rough - A Liar's Game?

[Silent Chrleader]

Hey, {{{Hope!}}}

So, are your a "bodice ripper" fan too? I've been addicted since my teens. That's one thing I hate about my sitch, that since the bomb of finding out about my H's PA with the OW, I can't even escape into a good sappy book like I have always done. If I read a love scene, I get mental visions of H with OW! And, I get so mad at myself for letting her have that power over me and my life!!

And try not to worry about the little "back-slides" in making comments to your H about it. He has already told you that he is willing to make amends and help you get past it. And it seems to me, the only way to do that is to get those feelings out so they don't fester inside you. Your H will only earn your trust back by going through the "mine field" of your emotions and helping you make it to the other side. So, it really is a necessary part of the process of healing that you let those toxic feelings out and for him to take it and step up to the plate. That's the only way you can reach forgiveness for him, or he for himself!

Of course, this is all only MHO.