I haven't been down that road, as my state doesn't offer LS, but from what I've researched about them, it's usually just a prelude to D. I'm generally only in favor of it if:
- you need to separate finances, for YOUR protection
- you or your children cannot withstand the current situation (arguing, angry outbursts, verbal abuse, etc.)
Part of the problem with them is that it doesn't give the wayward spouse an opportunity to see you live out the "new, stronger you" in front of them everyday. DBing obviously can only work to the extent that they're SEEING it play out in front of them. If you're separated, there'll be only a small fraction of the opportunities for them to see that.
