Crafidi, Have you continued reading DB and DR? first STOP asking your W if she is having an EA, PA, talking to OM etc. The more you grill her the more she will run. Does it matter -- you know in your heart what she is doing. She will not tell you and it will frustrate you more with her continued lies. They are in a fog and you will never get an honest answer. Let it go...
Legal Seperation is almost same as D except it is not a D, might buy you some time so she can change her mind, and protect assets. It could be a prelude to a D. If W wants a LS or a D -- let her get it. Do not help the process in any way till SHE files.
What I did was get some legal consultation from several L so if H asks me for D I will be prepared -- unlike him. I do not want a D but I you also need to have eyes open.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
