Sounds like the weather is so much fun everywhere today! Hope, I am so glad your H was there to be with you, that is a bit of progress on that part for you.
Hey Kel- Enjoy your day, do something fun. I guess if it is raining, it won't be outside just yet, I would say if you have tornado warnings!
Tonight should be a good night too, won't be home until later as I having dinner with friends, and then will probably go to Tiff's house as I made her D a cute sweatshirt, so going to go there right after work, so that will be good for my GAL!!
I just don't get him. H just calls on break, and talks about the football game, said I didn't seem very excited about it, I said I didn't think you wanted to pay for tickets just wanted to see if you could get them from work. H said well yeah, but I want to go. I told him I sent his friend what I had found for seats. I told him a college kid had called me last night about wanting to hunt our place. I told the kid we didn't have much it was mostly my grandma's land and she won't let you hunt. Which my grandma owns the mile section other than one corner, and my mom and dad own behind us. I was very upbeat, it is hard for me to get off the phone first, when I do he acts like I don't want to talk to him. He was really quiet when he said talk to you later and bye.
He has said before he feels like he is an inconvience to me when he calls, this was last year when he was saying I was having the affair. So I don't want him to feel that way when he calls, but I don't know how to address him when he says, Do you not want to talk to me? What type of response do I say?
I would like to say, you have chosen not to live with me, so why do you still want to talk to me? But I know that wouldn't be a good answer. Any ideas?
MT-my H made similar comments. I think it comes from their discomfort with the whole situation. Their uncertainty of what is coming down the road. It is really hard cuz you know you need to GAL, etc... but then they feel like they are losing us cuz we aren't sitting around pining for them. They just don't understand how hard it can be. But it is all you can do. Until they figure out what they are doing.
No that is not a good answer. At some point you may be able to explain that you still want him and M but that you are trying your best to just go on with life and make each day the best it can without pushing him to make some sort of choice until he is ready. But that this is not exactly the way you imagined the M to be and you really don't know how to act at this point so you are just doing your best to be his friend.
Sorry my wisdom on this one is so pitiful. LOL.
I haven't really figured it out myself either.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Hey I like your wisdom, anything helps me. I hate making him feel bad...isn't that sad, he is making me feel something I have never felt in my life, and I feel bad about how I making him feel. I know there is no logic with that one. I have always hated hurting his feelings.
I feel like I should tell him I won't be home after work, but then I think, no he doesn't tell me where he is at, and when he is going to be out, so he doesn't deserve to get an itinerary right now.
Try looking at it in another way. You are not hurting him or making him feel bad, he is hurting himself by the (wrong) path that he has chosen.
Sweetheart, if you don't let him feel these honest and deserved feelings for his actions he will not have a reason to change them.
There are consequences for his leaving you and being with another woman, as in he might not get to talk to you as long as he would like, he might not know where you are all of the time etc. If you keep intercepting the consequences and protecting him from them, he will have no reason to want to change.
Does that make any sense?
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Thanks hope, i needed to hear that too. Yesterday H's moods put me in a bad place, cuz I feel bad that he is hurting. But you are right, this is of his doing not mine.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
