First off Ian..let me apologize..I just found this or I would have responded sooner.
it's too bad Carrie is so selfish and does not seem to realize the damage she is causing her daughter. A daughter needs her mother and it appears that Carrie can't fill that role for her. I do hope that the lady you are seeing and Tawny have good interactions and have become friends to an extent. As you are well aware Tawny needs good female role models around her and hopefully this young lady can help in that regard.
I'm sorry that you were not with Ross on Thanksgiving. I hope you did get a little time with him at some point.
Your a good dad Ian..and a great source of sound advice here..I for one appreciate you so much.