I think things are moving forward very well!! Yesterday was my B-Day. I hit another milestone in life. Too young to retire, but old enough to know I want too.
W made plans for us. We went out to eat at a nice restaurant. I asked her if she would go with me to the mall and help me pick out a B-day present for me. I took her to Victoria Secrets and asked her to pick out a sexy nightgown for her to dance in at home that night.
She could not find anything that would fit. (Boy did I think I blew it!!!) Instead we went to another store and she found not one, not two, but four sexy things to wear. I asked her not to show me any of them and to pick the one she want to wear for the night of dancing in our living room.
We got home and we dance for two hours. Cuddling and hugging and rubbing on each other. Me in my boxers and her in her sexy shear baby doll out fit. The evening ending with me giving her a full body massage. She has been sleeping in the guess room when she is here over night, but last night we slept together in our bed. No sex, but we cuddled all night.
We are going shopping today and she plans staying at home tonight, but sleeping in the guess room. She doesn’t want to rush things. It will be another cold shower for me tonight LOL, but it is well worth a few cold showers to get as back together full time.
So how do you think things are going for me?
I do not like bragging, but this something positive to write and read on this forum. Maybe it will show some people here that things can and do work out.
<Beth and AlexEN> Thank you for your kind words of support. It is very gratifying to know that everything I have done to make myself a better person has also been the spark that has rekindled the fire in my R and M. Knowing that the hard work and dedication I have put in has and will continue to keep the fire growing and living. It is will worth the time and effort.
Like you I have read a lot of sitchs here. I have found some of what I have read disheartening, but also inspiring. There is never enough positive news so I am glade that I have been one of the ones that can write about it. Although, I am not all totally out of the woods, I do think that it will only take a little more time to find that open beautiful glade that will mark my departure from the hell I lived through for the past 7 + months.
Everyone's sitch is the same, but different. What I have found for me that works is a combination knowledge I have gotten on this forum, books that I have read, and visitation with my C. When I take all of this and add a couple of very good friends that have helped me fight off the demands it all added up to a positive outcome.
For all of you that are here, keep working on making yourself better. Keep working for what you want and do not give up ..... never give up.
By the way ...... W decided to sleep with me again on the second night, even though she had said 16 hours before she was not. I think we have turned another corner and she has taken down a few more stones from her wall. She also told me that she really enjoys being with me, but she is still struggling with being on her own. She went on to say that she is working on that part of her story. It is going to take her time to get through part of it. I told her that I have all the time in the world.
Again I have become to wordy, my apologies, but I wanted to express some of my feeling on this matter to who may want to read about what is going on in my sitch. Maybe by writing this on the forum I can inspire other, as I have been inspired.
Thank you for allowing me to bend your ear for a minute or two.
A mutual friend is wanting you to search for me over in the alt universe.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
