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[AnotherNightmare]

Beth,

I do think that our profession has something to do with how we behave in our R, how we handle emotions and how we deal with other people. Even though I am sure which one drives which, i.e. maybe we selected our profession based on how we handle interpersonal issues.

I can tell you from own experience. I am an IT guy managing project, large projects. All I do is make sure there is plan in place for every little thing that could happen on the way to the successful end date of the project. Until I realized just days ago, there might be no end date to this project or at least no sucessful end date, I was captured in my way of analyzing and thinking about the situation and issues. I try to take it day by day now while still trying to be in control of what I am doing. When I run a project, I control what dozens of people do. It drove me crazy until I accepted that I could not control what my W does.

It is completely counterintuitive from what you have learned is the right thing to do in your job. I am sure it must be similar for you. You do not control people's actions as much, but you have a reference (the law) you can go back to all the time to figure out what people are supposed to do. It is probably very hard for you to accept that there no such rule or law in R. There may not be any rules whatsoever.

AN