GG, How about getting the Love & Respect DVD and watching that with him? Or better still ask him to attend a live conference with him or ask him if he'd join you in a L&R study group? The material will help you both understand the dynamics of conflict avoidance, and your need to talk with him, and can open up ways for yoy both to be able to meet each other's needs. E.g. you understand that he means well by avoiding conflict, and he understand your need to resolve it. In the end, there will be a compromise, where he will sometimes meet your need to resolve the conflict, and you will meet his need to "drop it" at other times....
